They ask is – unsurprisingly – about jealousy when I tell monogamous people that I’m polyamorous, one of the first questions.
Do I feel jealous? How do you deal? Let’s say my partner seems jealous?
I realize their issues. If I’m truthful with myself, my concern about jealousy had been a thing that prevented me from acknowledging that I became polyamorous for some time. That I would feel too jealous and too insecure if my partner did the same while I knew I could love many people at once, I was worried.
Community encourages a true quantity of harmful fables about love, intercourse, and relationships. In lots of ways, culture glorifies envy: It’s assumed that with anyone else if you love someone, you’ll be jealous if they’re.
In this sense, envy sometimes appears as an indicator of real love.
As well, culture causes us to be feel ashamed whenever we feel insecure or envious in a relationship, since it’s frequently regarded as a indication of neediness, deficiencies in confidence, and unrequited love. It’s a truly confusing contradiction!
As a result of this, envy is just a thing that is tough navigate for anybody.
Polyamorous individuals are in a particularly tricky situation because we encounter relationships in another way towards the status quo.
As opposed to exactly what many individuals think, polyamorous individuals really can get jealous.