Ah, self-sabotageâ€”the silent, deep-seated foe of y our joy.
Itâ€™s the sh*tty things we do in addition to responses we now have that stem from underlyingâ€¦yeah, you guessed it: upheaval. Weâ€™re subconsciously attempting to protect ourselves from one thing, also it leads to a frozen â€œdeer-in-the-headlightsâ€ mindset or an extreme, polarizing effect.
The irritating thing is that individuals typically donâ€™t actually understand just why we do (or donâ€™t do) these specific things until we, â€œSit when you look at the yuck,â€ as my brilliant coworker and buddy, Nicole, states inside her own article.
Often, self-sabotage is originating from a location of real and/or psychological insecurity. (Say hello to your powerful yet fallible human-ness!) We essentially put up our personal little land mines in your relationships due to our painâ€”romantic or perhaps.
I do believe it occurs with greater regularity with family members and intimate partners because, for a simple level, theyâ€™re likely to be all around us more, and weâ€™re more comfortable with themâ€”theyâ€™re within the type of fire, as we say.
We composed a bit recently that contemplated the â€œwhyâ€ behind our coping mechanisms, and I also think this might be a delightful follow through on it.